Wednesday, 6 March 2019

Always Learning ...


Learning day by day...



       

You know what, we are still learning day by day...
if you take for example when we were born we never knew what we would be like to this day
as we grew older we learnt how to crawl, then we were taught how to walk and learnt how to take each step, of course we fell down but we learnt that we had to get back up once we fell or stepped wrong to do it again and again, yet we never lost focus and kept on going
we learnt how to babble as a baby then talk as we grew older.

It then comes down to if you had any social interaction as you were growing up, if you went to any baby and toddler groups or met up with your parent/s with their friends or even with other family members - there you were also learning believe it or not
you were learning social skills, the sensory exploration of different things like cold,warmth as well as things you didn't like

I believe as a young baby you learn that when you cry, you distinguish that you get what you need
it might not have been what you thought like pick up and cuddles or feeding but you soon learn that the more you do it the more attention you'd get, so trust me - we learn from the get go

As we then look at the later stages of starting nursery, it can become a overwhelming experience for some children, especially if they have attachment issues and like the comfort of being with loved one, I guess as a child you couldn't understand why someone who loves you would just leave you with someone you don't know to well. For some children this is a great experience, they get to meet new friends, they play with new toys and experience outdoors as well as learning new things. I am still trying to establish the difference some children have when they are young and can remember so much when they are older, we apparently can use that part of our brain to get that information, we just need to think really hard about it and as that is not always the part of the brain we use it is very difficult for some.

I'm at that stage with my kids that they are both now in primary school, two very different boys
one that is totally empathetic and the other which cant understand his emotions. I still believe life is a long learning journey. Yes we spend most of our youth in school environment but we have the best role models and teachers in our very own homes, we get taught so much from our parent/s its unreal.

Where am I going with my blog you ask me, well I'm trying to say we are on a life long journey of learning, each day we wake up and we learn
we learn what we want to or what interests us

Today I attended a very informative course all about emotions, it made me understand that we need to focus more on how we talk to our child or children and what we say to them has a drastic impact on how they feel or do things.
We looked briefly at our brains, so I thought it is useful to know and understand what and where our brain functions and what each part does.

I understand that we all learn at different paces and we are all created differently, i'm not comparing anyone or anything but in my experience it is helpful as a visual aid to understand how our brains work.
Its incredible also to think we are all created to learn differently, of course we are all individuals and we are all unique we all have something very special to offer this world we live in

I'm still trying to get my way around the way we learn, why some parts can keep the information and why somethings that are said we just ignore? I'm simply putting all my feelings down as today was very thought provoking and I'm now interested in the ways we think and why we think that way

Take for example if you were told 'wow you are so brilliant' what will you believe? I'm hoping you would say that you will think you are brilliant in all areas of life, its amazing how if something negative is said, we still as humans take those words to heart but its what we do with them that makes a massive difference in life, as sometimes words can be used to heal, some words used to hurt
I told my eldest son some words are like knives they can stab us deep in our hearts, we just have to learn as a human to 'shake it off' like that song suggests, we have the ability to listen or just pretend to listen

We are constantly learning from primary to secondary the only difference is that its more complicated, more serious and we are expected to understand a lot more in secondary
once we complete that we then have a choice of college or work - that is the choice I believe
but even in work, we are constantly learning, we have to learn that task we applied for unless it is something that comes naturally to us.

I was also looking at the ways we learn as humans, did you know there is more than one kind of learner? well if not, here is a few examples



As you can see from the above there is more than one way we learn...


Butterfly


BUTTERFLY....





Butterfly so tight and happy in the cocoon...
To become a butterfly a caterpiller first stuffs itself, hangs upside down and spins a silky cacoon
its protected inside and inside it slowly transforms itself and out emerges a beautiful butterfly
Life can seem difficult, we want to protect ourselves from our surroundings but can you imagine the life of a little butterfly
beautiful colours emerge out of a tighly spun cacoon, it snuggles up not having anything to do with the outer world
when it emerges it still needs to spread its brighly coloured wings and learn to fly

although filled with imense beauty it can be over within a few moments,
a new life begin, transforming from the outside a worm turns into beauty,
a caterpiller gets fatter as it sits and admires the wonderful green colours about
as it eats its body expands and grows, it cant escape from any fear it doesnt know any

when it slowly grows it decides its time to spin itself into a cacoon which is so tight no one can enter inside
its kept safe, its kept warm and snuggly - not knowing what horror may lie ahead 

Thoughts like a racing train


       THOUGHTS LIKE A RACING TRAIN....

How come our minds are built where there are so many thoughts racing daily
we have so many questions, so much things we cant and dont understand like our thoughts



did you know on a ordinary day how many thoughts we have 
I googled this 
on average, we have 60,000 thoughts per day
57,000 are habitual thoughts
45,000 are negative thoughts

wow no wonder life itself is so difficult, can you imagine
there is so many children and adults who have not been diagnosed with adhd which is attention deficit hyperactivity disorder or even add where the attention isnt there...
their minds are constantly working overtime even more so than a normal persons 
there is a urge which works overtime and cant stop
a switch which has no off button when all you want to do is switch it off...




Tuesday, 30 October 2018

SLEEPLESS BEAUTY

                    SLEEPLESS BEAUTY 

we have all heard about that special book called sleeping beauty...
My story is a little different


My story begins....

where thoughts keep racing
heart keeps beating
not knowing how to turn off the 'off' switch
why cant it be easy
hearing the surroundings its all silent
you try close your eyes but it doesnt seem to work

Taking a little pill, it doesnt do the trick
the next day is like a hammering draining feeling
feeling frustrated, feeling uncertain
so much questions to ask yet no one who understands

You try something new, a drink or more
the pain seems to subside yet the world around is not disappearing
sitting quietly thoughts keep racing
rocking swiftly back and forth to a little beat
staring into a unknown world and thoughts collide

Life when all is alive and bright seems so dark 
this feeling of not knowing when it will all go away
you ask yourself the same old questions
same routines, yet nothing seems helpful
talking helps to a degree then you leave
pulling at your hair as the voices appear
cant shout at them as others will see or hear
darkness seems to creep in more swifter



The burning feeling, the painful numbing matters
all these are just a complicated life of a sleepless beauty

Sleeping beauty who can go into a deep sleep, deeper and deeper she fades 
lying there not noticing anything which surrounds her
why cant this mind just be like a sleeping beauty instead
the past is the past yet why does it always come back 

scars are so deep they pierce into your heart
visually you seem ok but putting on that mask is easier
the talking fades, the people go, you left alone 

left along to sit alone while your racing thoughts collide but dont subside
where is the off switch you ask

Life goes on, but the past stays
its hard when you see the marks you did
painful heartache stabbing deeper into your midst
becoming a zombie eating at your own immortal soul
getting older not wiser you see life passes by
life is short as the saying goes...



This sleepless beauty wants to conquer
defeated by being put in the dark
lights seem so bright yet are so dim
everything is getting quieter, its almost a new day

sitting staring, heart get slower
breathing gets heavy, eyes get heavier
yet this sleepless beauty is still fighting this switch
please go off, please shut off, stand by and go away

wanting to stand on a hill top, wanting to run away
wanting to just hide inside a cacoon where its cosy and snug
yet when a new day breaks you feel its not any easier

Life is bigger, life is harder, living is hard
Lets try help this sleepless beauty x

Written
01.44am 
31-10-2018

Wednesday, 8 November 2017

Feeling Lost, how you can try find yourself again...



Do you ever feel lost?
Do you ever lose a lot of things ie your keys, mobile phone, wallet?

Today my blog will be all about being lost and how you can try rediscover yourself in today's busy life....

when I searched google about the meaning lost it comes up with the following description

unable to find one's way; not knowing one's whereabouts.


                      Life can make you feel lost and you dont know what is reality or not
         The past can creep up on us so quickly and we just dont know how it came about
              Life can be like a bunch of keys, we leave it in a place and suddenly they disappear
you ask me, what is this all about? just feeling completely lost in the big wide world
           Life is not easy, no one gets it 100%, that is not why im writing about lost
You would think that  if life could be like the movies, we would all be happier more excited people
Todays life is getting lost in the wilderness... its crazy, people being killed left and right
Its easier for a gp to describe pills to help subside the feelings but we know for sure we will get lost sooner or later in the daily tasks 

I have always wanted life to feel as the movie Forest Gump - Life is like a box of chocolates 
              but in reality life isnt, we feel stuck and lost between reality and normality.

         What do you do to hide your feelings, do you scream and shout? do you go crazy? 
           do you just sit and wait to get disolved and lost in these emotions like a whirlpool? 
There is help out there when you get lost but even that only lasts a few weeks or months 


Finding the best method that suits you is all that is needed, everyone has different needs and wants 



The things you could try could be anything from these - make it yours, you define you
Try reading a nice book, one that captures you so you feel lost and dont want to be bugged
even if you dont feel you can sing, whos watching or listening anyway right?
                    Try talking to someone instead of bottling these feelings in all the time
    
Feeling lost can be felt in different ways, losing your personal belongings and losing yourself
Luckily when we lose our personal belongings they can easily be found
when we lose ourselves its a hard process to be found, but remember you can be found again













The Beast Inside




Life could be crumbling away
Being eaten inside alive by humanity
no one knows the shadows you hide behind
no one understands the daily struggles you face
why should a person put on a face to show unwanted feelings
a mask is easier to conceal the hidden emotions inside

Raging with being a mixed person who cant control emotions
stuck between two identities...
One who is on a high, the other wants to rip things apart
wish life could be more magical

Why cant life have more fun, more holidays?
is it envy or is it a desire? who knows
Seeing others 'falseness' makes you sick
there comes a point of questions why, why, why?

The beast from the past resurfaces 
it cuts deep like a knife, stinging, burning, hurting
can we rewind the hands of time and erase these memories?

Take pills to numb the beast inside, to control these feeling
when the beast erupts its nasty, angry
wanting rage, disruption to tear things apart

People call themselves friends, what are true friends
dont think they realy exist do they?
screaming inside letting these feelings out
a huge cry and scream shout should help
what is normal you ask...
Nothing realy!!!!!!

Thursday, 6 October 2016

1 thing in common



         We all have 1 thing in common...
         that we wake up to each morning, 
               what do you think it is ????


                                                                  Well it's our names....


we all were given a name when we were born, some of us don't like or agree with the ones we were given but as we go along in life they change....
They change in so many ways in actual fact here is a little thing for you to see how they change

                                                              As a woman in particular...

we start off with our first name which is our family name, then when we meet our life partner it changes, perhaps we even have a special pet name but we gain their families surname

As life goes on we are then given another name if we have a child/ren we are then called mummy,mum or momma
Further down the line if our child/ren grow up and they then have their own family we are then given another name granny,nanna, ouma or a chosen name you like
But their is one special thing we should all be very excited about and that is one day when we die and we are resurrected with our Father God, he gives us a new name one which he chooses for us and one we will continue on having eternally xxx

We all have friends in life but they seem to come and go as that is life but there is one true friend which will never leave you, nor forsake you or hurt you and that is our Father God
Please forgive me but thought this message was truly lovely and had to share it with each of you
May you all be blessed in knowing you are loved and cared for more than you can ever imagine
Take life day by day and cherish life on earth day by day xxx
                                                           God bless you all